Driver’s Seat

How frequently do you forget that you are in the driver’s seat? Life is like an automobile; in order for the car or life to move in any direction it needs us to perform. Sometimes we take a wrong turn or two, but that is OK. Just remember that you have a built in GPS/KNOWING to find your way at any given moment. So the next time you get in your automobile I would like for you to pause, and ask yourself, am I driving today?


I need to write about a very special someone that I got to call daughter. I didn’t carry her for nine months; I didn’t change her diapers when it was wet or give her a bottle when she was hungry nor did I nurse her to health when she was sick. I never kissed her good night or tucked her in at bedtime. However, I was still mom and she was my daughter. We got to teach each other things like trust, strength, courage, commitment and discover the true meaning of unconditional love. I was only in my early twenties when she showed up in my life via my younger sister. I took a liking to her from the initial meet, and I think in some way without her noticing, I was about to become her mom. Years passed by with many tears, worry, disagreements, first love and  heart break. Life wasn’t easy or kind to her, but she had the strongest will I have ever seen. She constantly inspired me; I hope she knew that. I was never disappointed and unfailingly very proud. They say that a mother’s love sees no wrong. I saw all her imperfections but that was what made her so brilliant, and I loved her for it. She had no need to follow the rules, so to speak, for in her eyes the rules failed her first.  She was determined to beat life at it’s own game and in some ways she did. Her battle ended on June 11th, 2012, not because life won, but because she said fuck you – it’s time for me to bounce. That was my daughter. I love you.

” Carmen didn’t just appear like a whisper; her life will echo loudly”. By Liza Zayas

The Art of Friendship

Friendship There are a lot of quotes out there that express how some folks might feel about friends.

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” -Walter Winchell

“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.” – Sent by Donna Roberts

“A hug is worth a thousand words. A friend is worth more.”– Sent by Jasmine Fitzwilliam

Clearly, friends are an intricate part of our lives, yet they are ever changing. We are first introduced to friendships as we learn social skills at a playground and as the years move along we experience a variety of friendships along the way. However, what makes a true friend? We all know people, but who falls under the friend category and why? To me personally, a friendship is described brilliantly in this quote: “A friendship can weather most things and thrive in thin soil; but it needs a little mulch of letters and phone calls and small, silly presents every so often – just to save it from drying out completely”.~ Pam Brown